Where should I begin? How do I encapsulate our story that has been so vast and filled with smiles, laughter, tears, pain, happiness, many firsts, love and God all into a short story?!
10 years ago I unexpectedly met the man of my dreams and little did I know he would become my husband and share this lifetime with me…
Even thinking back that far and reminiscing on this journey we have been on thus far shows me once again how great God’s love is.
So, boy meets girl, they fall in love, get engaged, get married, have babies and live happily ever after…right?!
Ryan and I met in 2005 , one day before his birthday. I was impressed immediately by his style, charismatic personality and charming demeanor. Not love at first sight but definitely smitten by his personality. Ryan is three years my senior and had just finished his undergraduate and was pursuing the start of his professional career and life as a bachelor. We began to talk over the phone and hang out. Over the next 4 1/2 years we would begin to build our relationship, mature and embark on life’s wild ride!
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu
The love that I have for my husband allows me to pour out the greatest mercy which God has given me from the moment I was purposed into life. The insurmountable and unconditional love and forgiveness in our marriage is such a blessing.
5 1/2 years of marriage, 10 1/2 years of togetherness, 4 pregnancy losses, 2 life saving emergency surgeries, 7 years of infertility, financial struggle, marital struggle, job loss, home loss, bachelor’s degrees, masters degree, family, friends, lost loved ones, new friendships, old friendships, God has truly been preparing us to walk into our season when his time is right!
As I sit here and ponder staring at the computer screen on how I will portray our story I realize that all the “glitz n glam” you see on FB, IG, Twitter and reality tv is all bologna. Real stories have depth, power, endurance, perseverance, tenacity, gross and gritty, beautiful and memorable symbolic love that last a lifetime. With 50% of marriages ending in divorce, the mere fact that 2 people have committed to staying together after battling life’s challenges is a miracle in itself.
Our marriage is a miracle and blessed gift from God.
So versus taking everyone down memory lane, I will tell you who we are, how we are and what we are.
We are two God fearing people who have experienced Grace, Mercy, Forgiveness and Miracles far beyond our greatest imaginations. We strive to be positive people, seeing the glass half full. We are best friends. We are husband and wife. We are each others #1 and we are each other’s harshest critic. I’m his number one fan as well as being the naked truth when he doesn’t want to hear it. We fight, we argue, we struggle, we pray, we cry, we believe but most of all WE STICK TOGETHER.
Marriage is by far the hardest and most challenging job you will ever do but its still the most rewarding thing you will ever experience.
On October 27, 2008 Ryan proposed on the night of my birthday. I WAS LITERALLY SHOCKED. Of course, I said yes!
October 2, 2009 changed my life forever. I walked down the aisle and said “I DO!”
We are silly, crazy, spontaneous best friends who love traveling spending time with family and friends, trying new things, watching movies, anything sports related and enjoying life!
I’m chuckling to myself, because Ryan and I have been through it all these past few years. Only a few people know the full story. Just last year we were hanging on by a thread… there was lots of anger and tears and marriage counseling and tweaking this and tweaking that, and I’m only writing this now because I’m confident we’ve come out on the other side. (oh, and you thought you knew everything about us by reading this blog?! Proof that blogs are just a peek!)
Thank God we aren’t where we were,. We might not be exactly where we are supposed to be but we are better than our past and with God’s direction we will continue walking the path destined for us.
I promise you this, we are overcomers, believing by faith pursuing God’s voice in our lives and in our marriage daily.
So our love story is a fairytale, an immaculate resemblance of God’s love and power, destiny’s calling, but most of all our love story is filled with undying love. Love for one another, Love for God and Love for ourselves.
We love each other, we fight for each other, we believe in each other, we believe in God and we still believe in the power of love!